Why most of the advice here on relationships lean towards splitting up?

Especially when only one side of the story is heard. I think changes have to be made or you are going to have the same problems with the next person. That does not solve anything.Why most of the advice here on relationships lean towards splitting up?
Because we have a TON of people here under the age of 25.





Splitting up is their answer for everything.Why most of the advice here on relationships lean towards splitting up?
not all advice given on here is one sided or biased. true, most of the time we only get one side of the story whether its the truth or not, we never know but have to take the asker at their word and do the best we can with it. I, for one, will give advise to save any relationship if that even appears possible or give divorce advice if its already headed that way. I am extremely choosy in the questions I answer and wont answer any of the ';nonsense'; ones. I take each question separately and answer according to that question even though many do sound alike. the biggest thing here is we can give all the advise and information we want but its completely up to the asker to what they want to adhere to or choose to ignore as no answer is ever forced upon anyone. Also true is the fact that many people answering on here should not be due to lack of knowledge on the subject or just plain inexperience in this area so alot of mis information is given on here
Because most people who are married are having problems. They don't know what they want. There's not enough love... they can't make compromises, sacrifices, commitments, etc. People are often selfish.. spoiled.... so they go out of their way to do things they only want for themselves.





The sad irony here is.... why marry in the first place. Why go through all of that trouble to sign a contract? I hope, we as human beings, realize that marriage isn't for everyone but in this society we live in... it's often encouraged.





We have got to stop paying for those shi**y diamond rings and the costs it takes to pay for a wedding.





It's a crappy world we live in but it's the best that we can do to restore order and prevent chaos.
Thank you very much!





I've been saying that for the last 2 years. It's the nature of this post-modern relativistic society that we live in. As prosperity increases so does narcissism. And that only goes to pride and that to the fall.


We think that everyone else is a fault for our own errors in judgment and rather than face the reality of our own failure - people just pack it in and move on to the next failure.


Go hit the nail on the head!
The answers you get are directly related to the way you present your issue. If you present as a victim you get a lot of ';you can do better you poor thing';' type of messages, and so on.





Also I think a lot of people who ask stuff on here really already have the answer to their questions...
You make a good point. I have been through a lot in my marriage but never gave up and have lasted 17 years. There are situations though when you have to face the facts and realize that you cant force the other person to see things the way you do. This is real life, stop fantasizing.
Because most of these people have no idea what a real marriage is. Divorce is the quick and easy way out, divorce has also became the popular thing to do these days, and that's really sad.
Have you read answers to questions? They are not all the same. Everyone has their own opinion and the idea of asking a question is to get different opinions. People also should learn by their mistakes.
Well, I don't, and I irritate my fair share of fathers to admonishing them against this choice, unless it involves violence or really significant problems. This ';I'm not happy'; does not warrant destroying your children's family.


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Depends on the question and depends on the answerer - I tend to give a mix...sometimes it sounds like breaking up would be better and other times I think they should make some changes and give it a shot...
I usually advise divorce when there's cheating. It is crystal clear that anyone who could betray you like that doesn't give a SHlT about you, only themselves.
Because most of the questions hint at it being painfully obvious.
Those of us who post answers can only base those answers on the information given.
I don't know.





I'm leaving you.